lørdag den 31. oktober 2009

Reporting for Duty

Wow, it's really been a while since I last made an entry here, eh?
A lot has happened since then.
I've eben in a wonderful relationship which, sadly, ended again.
I've been on a longish vacation, so obviously havnt had the time or the urge to write anything here.

Right, now to the fun stuff.
My perfect toy was found only 6 days ago. She is very willing and obedient and has submitted to me completely. Not because I asked, but as she said "Because you left me no choice".

She is a wonderful latex/futuristic doll, and is being trained to serve me in every possible way.
I am so very proud of her when she kneels at my feet and when she does her very best to please me and the people around us.

torsdag den 6. august 2009

The Experiment - Day 4

I think I'm gonna write a little about what I've done, so as to document that it is possible to dominate someone not using anything but communication.

Dulci, my slave in training has been speech restricted. She is not allowed to speak to anyone in public chat or IM without asking for my permission first. And so far, that has worked out perfectly. She told me that it makes her happy, that she can show other people her submission to me in that way. It also makes her seem very humble (which she really is) towards other people and especially towards me.

Dulci again, has to follow me around very close. She's not allowed to stray without my permission and so far that has also worked out perfect (not counting lag). We agreed that it could be concidered an invisible leash, and this way we also avoid any raised brows from nilla people.

I've spend a lot of time speaking to my subs, as I usually do, but we've been focusing on triggers and respond. All my subs agree that following orders, having restrictions (like the above), and generelly pleasing me by their mere presence is a great way to make them feel dominated. One of them (Dulci) even told me she'd love to try that out in real life as well, if she has a dom. Especially the speech restriction has been a joy for her this week. And I realized that even having these conversations is domination. It came naturally to me before, but the experiment has made me think what it truely is that makes me a dom.

The Experiment - Day 3

Okay, today (August 4th) has been off for me... For a while me and a sub of mine has discussed dollification, so today I "fell in" and began the transformation process, starting with boot training.

But it has made me think.
I never joined SecondLife because of the BDSM community there, infact I had no idea there even was a such thing. So I didnt join it because of the visual benefits you'd get, compared to IRC i.e. I imagine some LifeStylers joined SL exactly because of the visual advantages. And so that also started me wondering "Why not make use of these things". One of my subs told me the other day that she wants it to be even more extreme in SL than in RL, for her to "feel" it better.
But the experiment is: Can I be a dominant in SL without making use of BDSM related scripted toys or tools?
So far I still believe that, yes, I can. If I werent able to, would I be a true dom?
Tools such as RLV is something people havnt always had in SL, and they got by just fine. And the toys, as Corvan comented in another blog, has nothing to do with being dominant, it has to do with placing a person in bondage. Of course it's a part of a D/s relationship - to many at least - but not something that is required to keep a D/s relationship flowing smoothly.

mandag den 3. august 2009

The Experiment - Day 2

Okay, it might be time to tell you a little more about the experiment.
Last night at around midnight I was part of a discussion at Bonanza BDSM Auction. The topic for that night was "Can you dominate in SL without using toys or tools?". It was a vry fun discussion and there were lots of different viewpoints.

(Summary: http://forcemesilverspar.blogspot.com/2009/08/tools-and-toys.html)

It was late and I guess I was obsitnate, cause I kept arguing that, yes, it is definately possible to be a dominant in SecondLife without the use of toys or tools.
In fact I truely believe that to be correct. True domination or submission is something that comes from the heart and shows in the dynamics between people. Using a whip og spanker or whatever such object is in no way a substitute for the mental aspect of any D/s relationship, be it in real life or any graphical or non-graphical chatroom.

Anywhoo.... We had to define what Toys and Tools are in order to be able to discuss it properly. Forceme wanted it to be any scripted object in SL, but we narrowed it down to any scripted object that is BDSM or D/s related.
This means that I cannot use collars, any RLV item, sex-beds with BDSM content or anything like that. It also means that my subs arent allowed to use their collars to for example kneel. Not even the hugger that RLV collars have (dang).

Personally I think that collars in SL has become as normal as common jewelry. Therefor I do not use them myself. I allow my subs to wear them, but that doesnt mean they are "collared" by me; it simply gives them a fancy tool to do all the poses they feel they need to do in order to visualize their submission. So my first challenge in this experiment will be to teach my subs not to use the collars around me...

Today I made a sub run around my maze-like jungle island sim, serving beer to a friend of mine who was hiding. She had to remember a list of beer brands, so she could tell my friend what beers were available, find my friend, and then go back to the hut, pour the beer and find my friend again to pass him the beer.
This is part of a conversation I had with her afterwards:
Jonesey: Tell me how this made you feel... having to follow orders like that
Klaudia: I like it, Sir I have a submissive side, Sir
Jonesey: but how did it make you feel? what went through your mind?
Klaudia: oh, I felt a little humiliated
Jonesey: anything else?
Klaudia thinks and whispers "yes and excited"
Jonesey: why did you feel humilited?
Klaudia smiles softly "just by being forced to follow orders, sir. But I like this feeling, Sir"

This is a fine example to me that domination can be done easily without the use of toys or tools.

søndag den 2. august 2009

The Experiment - Day 1

Today I agreed to participate in an experiment.
I am not allowed to use any BDSM or D/s related toys or tools in SecondLife for a full week, starting today.

I'm pretty sure, I can do it, but we'll see what implications it has for me. - And for my subs.
I suspect that I'll need to improve my communication skills a lot in this period.

What will this experiment show? And dang, I have to make my subs not kneel... Because any toy or tool they use are concidered mine as well...

Would having my sub get me a beer from the bar be concidered breaking the rules? as the scripted beer taps arent really BDSM related? Hmmm....

First entry

Hello world,

So this is my first entry in my new blog. The idea of this blog is to document and keep track of my actions as a SecondLive BDSM Dominant.

Hopefully, it'll be fun and educating reading...